Why body shamers need to shut up

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Body Positivity is something we all need to take on a little more; it's also something that others need to take on a little more. When I refer to the 'others' I'm talking about the body shamers, the judgemental men (and occasionally women) who decide to take it upon themselves to advise, judge and bash others for the way in which they look. Keep on reading to see how I overcame a body shamer this week...

All of my life I have been 'chubby' and all of my life I have experienced people calling me names, but last night was the first time that I had encountered somebody online bashing my positivity posts. Yesterday I took a mirror selfie, just one as I was in a rush (so not my usual 53) and I decided not to post it on social media as I thought I looked too fat, too chubby and I thought that the angle was unflattering. Despite all of these self-destructive thoughts, I decided to post it on social media later that day. Why? Because I want younger people to know it's okay to not look like the photoshopped, posed images you see on social media.


So, after posting this photograph on Twitter later that night and feeling proud that I had fought of the demons in my head telling me I'm not good enough, the post got over 100 likes and I felt happy with my earlier decision of posting. Then at around 11pm I received a lovely notification, a young man had quoted my tweet.. saying "why are fat people like thisπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚" with an abundance of laughing emojis. I screenshot the tweet and posted it on my twitter.

I had an incredible response. My followers stuck up for me and put this boy in his place, which I can't thank them (you) enough for! Honestly, I didn't want to bite back and give him the satisfaction and yeah, I did give him a piece of my mind in the end as he wouldn't shut up and I won't have him call me fat, say I'm not healthy when he knows nothing about me and put down other girls who were defending me and my lifestyle choices.

People like him are the reason some young girls (and guys) become anorexic. People like him are the reason thousands of people starve themselves everyday. People like him are the reason why people feel unworthy in the skin they're in. And people like him are the reason I'm sat here writing this kick ass article and defending my thick thighs and the thousands of other thick thighed gals out there who need a confidence boost.

I understand he may not find chubby girls attractive. GOOD. I didn't want you to find me attractive, because quite frankly I don't find judgmental, disgusting men who only think of women as sexual objects to find me attractive. I DON'T DRESS NICE FOR BOYS TO LIKE ME. I DON'T WORKOUT BECAUSE I WANT BOYS TO LIKE ME. I DON'T WEAR LIPSTICK BECAUSE I WANT BOYS TO LIKE ME. I honestly don't give a flying fuck if boys like me or not - if they do, they do and if they don't they don't. I will NEVER do ANYTHING so that a boy or anyone finds me attractive, I do everything for me and only for me.

Yes, I may have excess fat on my body, mainly on my bum and thighs lol, but everybody has excess fat on their body - but this will never, ever define a person. Excess fat does not mean you are fat and a random body shamer's opinion does not mean anything to you and should in NO way make you feel worthless. Years ago I'd have run off crying, crash dieted and worried about how I looked but instead this girl isn't worrying. Instead she's spreading positivity, self love and feels more empowered than EVER before. I'm bloody gorgeous and I don't care what anybody thinks about me. I'm healthy, I workout everyday, I'm happy and I have a goddamn amazing wardrobe full of clothes that fit, flatter and make me feel and look bloody amazing.

I want young people to know that being curvier and chubbier than the norm is okay. I want young people to know that a man's opinion (or anybody's opinion) should never, ever define you and WON'T. I want young people to know that they should wear whatever they want. I want young people to know that they can post photos of themselves and feel confident about it. And most of all, I want young people to know that if some low-life, body shamer who is clearly just sooooooo jealous that he can't have you, decides to slate you - you should just ignore it, post another photo, hashtag it #bodyposi, flip your hair, shake your curvy hips and go and enjoy that slice of cake that he made you feel unworthy of.

Let's end this post on a positive note with some bomb-ass photos of me from a recent shoot!


I hope this post has inspired you to be unapologetically you. Wear what you like, be true to you and don't ever feel as though you have to justify yourself to anybody.

Sending love, hugs and body positivity...




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  1. I absolutely agree with everything you say in this photo. You should feel comfortable in your own skin �� wear what you like eat what you want and just be true go you. Really enjoyed this post and I absolutely adore anyone that defends themselves and others over such an issue. Then again it shouldn't be an issue in this world just think of them as lowlifes people who haven't got anything better to do than slate others. I've alwsys said to myself they make a critsicm about you clearly shows what kind of person they are on the inside. Well done for posting this hun xo

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    1. Thank you ever so much my love. Your comment really means the world to me and I can't thank you enough for reading and taking the time to leave such a lovely comment. People just have nothing better to do and thrive off of making other people feel like shit. Thank you so much, gorgeous. Sending love to you - Mollie xx

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  2. This was so amazing!!! I love this so much you look beautiful I'm happy I checked out your blog today

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    1. Aww! Thank you ever so much Shaaa! I am so happy you checked out my blog today as well! Love yourself and never apologise for being you. Sending love to you! - Mollie xx

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  3. I saw your recent post on Instagram so I had to go check out this out because I wanted to know how you dealt with it personally. I'm so happy that you still posted that picture despite whatever thoughts you might had in the beginning, because body positivity is indeed something that everyone needs to have more off. With the rise in social media and influencers, I find that we don't see enough post like yours and it made me smile when I read that your followers backed you up. Regardless of that, if you're happy in your own skin it doesn't matter what other people say about it and I find that it's usually because of their insecurities that they post harsh comments like those. Great job on this post, stay confident in your own skin and you looked amazing in all the pictures posted! x

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    1. Hiya Sam, thank you so much for checking out this post - it means the world to me that you decided to have a read. I agree with you totally! Thank you so so so much, your comment has made me beam with happiness. Thank you, gorgeous!! Sending lots of love to you - Mollie xx

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  4. Very well written. You're right - you are beautiful and our bodies don't define us! xx

    Beautylymin

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    1. Thank you so much, love! Thank youuuuuuuuu!!!! Sending love to you! - Mollie xx

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  5. YES MOLLIE! I remember seeing that tweet last night. You're gorgeous no matter what shape or size you are! Why do people think it's ok to try and put people down regarding their size? That guy and other people like him are dickheads. You do you babe and I love how you just don't give a shit! xx

    www.itsmeganelizabeth.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Hiya Megan!! Thank you so much for reading hun - this comment means everything to me! Yes, you're right, people like that are dickheads and need to learn a few lessons in the manners department lol! Everybody should do them, be themselves and never apologise for being them AND they should never, ever, ever change themselves because of somebodies comment or judgement! Thank you so much for reading - it means the world to me! Lots of love, babe - Mollie xx

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    1. Thank you so so very much, Tara! I'm sure you are too, my love!! - Mollie xx

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  7. Yes gal! You tell him.✊✊ If you're taking pictures,no matter or size and still looking flawless you're obviously doing SOMETHING right.😘 It's a shame how people like him have the audacity to point you out on something good when he most likely has flaws about himself? In fact, I can point out a flaw about him right now-he's an utter fool. FOOL!😏

    #sweetreats xx www.bakingboutiquebirds.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Hello love! Thank you so SO much for reading and for commenting too, it means the absolute world to me. AWWW! Thank you!!! It really is a shame that anybody thinks they can bash anybodies appearance, isn't it!? And YESSSS!! He is a fool! A rude fool who clearly has no manners!! Thanks again for reading and commenting, sending lots of love to you babe!! - Mollie xx

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  8. YES!!! No one looks the same, and there is no set definition of "pretty"- everyone is pretty in their own way!
    Amy xx

    A Habit Of Solitude

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    1. Thank you so much gorgeous!! And YESSSS!!!!!! - Mollie xx

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  9. Brilliant. As a man myself I struggled to understand the way women feel about how they look. Thanks to you I completely get it now. Wonderful post and you look fantastic. x. Taylor.

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    1. I am so glad you understand women's issues with body image now. Thank you ever so much for reading and for being so understanding regarding the matter too! - Mollie xx

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  10. You're looking gorgeous in your pics Mollie and don't ever let some idiot tell you other wise! Fair play on you, it's refreshing to see unedited pics. You look fab as you are 😘😘😘
    Jaz xoxo
    http://www.thelifeofasocialbutterfly.co.uk

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    1. Awwww! Thank you so much gorgeous!!!! Love you lots!!!!!! - Mollie xxx

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